Hello everyone!
So today I made a video on my inability to take compliments (which you can see at the end of this post ^_^).
I feel that for me this is a major personality flaw. Not only does it devalidate the opinion of the person giving the compliment, but it is unhealthy for me to not be able to accept that there is any good in me. So today I thought I’d compile a bit of a step by step to accepting a compliment to remind myself how it’s done.
Step 1
Say thank you. Compliments can be difficult for people to give, so it is nice to let that person know that it has not gone unnoticed and you appreciate it.
So today I made a video on my inability to take compliments (which you can see at the end of this post ^_^).
I feel that for me this is a major personality flaw. Not only does it devalidate the opinion of the person giving the compliment, but it is unhealthy for me to not be able to accept that there is any good in me. So today I thought I’d compile a bit of a step by step to accepting a compliment to remind myself how it’s done.
Step 1
Say thank you. Compliments can be difficult for people to give, so it is nice to let that person know that it has not gone unnoticed and you appreciate it.
Step 2
Be specific. To really let the person know their compliment has been heard, respond to it directly. Maybe add in a “I actually worked really hard on that” or a “I bought it last year” after the thanks. Obviously, don’t lie, but it’s nice to make the person giving the compliment feel like they’ve really got it right.
Be specific. To really let the person know their compliment has been heard, respond to it directly. Maybe add in a “I actually worked really hard on that” or a “I bought it last year” after the thanks. Obviously, don’t lie, but it’s nice to make the person giving the compliment feel like they’ve really got it right.
Step 3
Return the compliment. Not in a “Oh no, your hair is much nicer than mine!” way but in a “Thank you, I really appreciate that, your hair always looks lovely” way. This way not only are you being nice by complimenting another, you’re also shifting focus back off yourself if you’re feeling uncomfortable like I often do.
Return the compliment. Not in a “Oh no, your hair is much nicer than mine!” way but in a “Thank you, I really appreciate that, your hair always looks lovely” way. This way not only are you being nice by complimenting another, you’re also shifting focus back off yourself if you’re feeling uncomfortable like I often do.
Step 4
Smile. Compliments are meant to make you feel good! You shouldn’t feel bad for feeling good. Smile and let your happiness show!
Smile. Compliments are meant to make you feel good! You shouldn’t feel bad for feeling good. Smile and let your happiness show!
It sounds so simple right? Right!
It should be simple, and I am going to try my hardest to stick to it.
I hope you’re all having great days!
Lots of love,
Kristi.
It should be simple, and I am going to try my hardest to stick to it.
I hope you’re all having great days!
Lots of love,
Kristi.
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